I think it happened in stages. I think that Danny fell for Michelle over a period of time. He was obviously intrigued and attracted to her in the beginning, but I think his free fall over that cliff took baby steps to get there.
It's really breathtaking to watch. There's more emotion between them in this quiet scene than any of their encounters to that date -- despite the fact that the characters were so bent on maintaining that cool distance. I think even Michelle begins to turn the corner that morning When Michelle talks about that tiny little baby and he reaches out to brush her hair back, it's as if in reaching out to her he's fallen head first off that cliff and he really doesn't give a damn where or how he lands. The only thing he wants at that moment is Michelle and for Michelle to love him.
Honestly what a gift the writers gave us in those early days. We continue to analyze these scenes ad nauseam and I still come away with something new everytime. I'm blown away that so many of those scenes are being replayed and coming to fruition now. Danny still gets maniacal at the thought that Michelle could get hurt; thus all that nonsense about keeping her away from him after the shooting at Casa Santos.
Danny did make his mark on her that day at the diner. She didn't pull away, and there is that undeniable connection between them. How many times has he "risked" himself for her? How many times has he had to prove himself to her when we all know he probably never put himself out for anyone in his past -- with the exception of maybe Pilar. And pre-Cana, goodness, we're still in the throes of those scenes.
Michelle telling Danny she can't live with him or his background after the shower scene, Danny saying he'll change for her -- then ultimately after the shooting Michelle says that she knows he can't change or promise anything and that he is in her blood. So no, she has convinced herself that background really doesn't matter -- but I think for them this issue will rear its ugly head over and over (gosh, I hope. When Michelle talks about that immediate connection with someone -- Manny has it and boy howdy have they got it).
As for that baby, I still think it's looming in the future and I believe that we've seen nothing of protective mode Danny until we are able to see him with that baby, particularly if it ends up being a girl.
Good gracious, I just went way off topic; so sorry, old Manny scenes launch me into reminiscing mode and waxing poetic. Well, that's my view on the Manny world and Manny falling in love. As I mentioned, I don't think that there was one moment where he went from a careful distance to complete adoration, I think it happened with him watching and wooing her. Yet I happen to also think it wasn't anything he really planned. I think he wanted her in a physical sense and probably had planned on seducing her, using her, and moving on; yet he found himself consumed by and for her -- and wasn't it delicious to watch?
Kristie