Mr. and Mrs. Daniel Santos The Rustle of the Sheets . . .
Essay #173
"The Vulnerability of Danny"

By Tracee

I think the reason we haven't seen Michelle be the one to lead and dominate in this relationship is probably because TPTB feel like they're fulfilling their female audiences fantasies by having the man be aggressive, and the woman somewhat docile, to his charms. I don't necessarily agree with their take on matters, but I know plenty of females who *love* that kind of story. I guess a part of me must like the caveman-ish actions of Danny, as well, since I'm always wanting him to shut her up with a kiss, or drag her out of a room, or whatnot.

I think it would be a wonderful sign of maturity on Michelle's part to be the one to throw down her husband, and would also speak to a lot of the female population, who would love to be able to do that to the men in their lives, but for societal reasons, tend to shy away from it. I don't know if Guiding Light is that progressive, the only time they seem to show the women being sexually aggressive is when they women are throwing themselves desperately at a man, but that's true of most soaps.

Manny could pull it off, easily though. Especially since Michelle has become more and more forward with her demands ("I want you to make love to me now" comes to mind) and it would also touch on something I don't think is addressed nearly as often as it should be, that being Danny's inner thoughts/fantasies, what have you. He's so bent on fulfilling all of Michelle's and being what she wants, that he puts his own desires to the side, over and over.

He wouldn't even tell her his wishes in that bed, it's almost as if he's scared to be that vulnerable with her. Because to know what he truly wants, to have that power over him, is to be able to take it away from him, or hurt him with. It'll be a long time before he's completely comfortable telling her those parts of him. Telling her he wants to have sex, is one thing, that's the base, animalistic Danny, but telling her what he would think about when he was nine? Not anytime soon. It must have killed him just to tell her about that park bench at fourteen years old, and he only did it to push her away. In time, he'll have to learn that the marriage is based on two people, not simply his fulfilling her every wish (I don't think any woman really wants to be an icon to their husband, or else they may as well be all alone in their relationship).

When she can get him to trust her enough, to let her lead, I think we'll start to see him open up more and more. Look at how wounded and vulnerable he was in the "you know why" shower scenes. He may as well have stripped a layer of skin from his body and handed it to her, to dip in salt. He couldn't even bring himself to say "I love you" at that point, for fear of rejection. As she proves how she's willing to stand by him, through her actions, and how she's willing to work with him in their relationship, I think he'll become more and more secure. And forget it, when they have a kid, his whole defense mechanism is going to crumble down!

Tracee


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